Types of Abuse

There are many different types of abuse and learning about them can help you identify the signs and avoid being caught in an unhealthy relationship (Patricelli, 2005). It can be more challenging for BDSM couples because those who have no experience with BDSM may interpet the changed power dynamic as an abusive relationship. There are several important differences between abusive relationships and a shifted BDSM power dynamic. Make yourself aware of the red flags of abusive BDSM partners and remember that the important difference between the two is effective communication. You and your partner should have open communication and be negotiating the the boundaries of the power exchange. A key ingredient in this mix is consent. BDSM partners consent to what happens in their relationship and how the power dynamics changes.

Abuse and violence can occur in domestic situations as well as between friends. When most people think of violence, they think of physical but there are many different forms of abuse (ProjectPave, 2015). It may occur just once or it may be part of a pattern that stretches over a period of time (Goverment of Newfoundland, 2014). No matter how the violence occurs, it can have significant and long lasting impacts on the victim. No one deserves to suffer unwanted harm whether it is from someone in their life or self inflicted.

The Different Types of Abuse

Abuse can take many forms

Physical
Sexual
Emotional
Psychological
Digital
Spiritual
Cultural
Verbal
Financial
Neglect
Self Neglect
Social
Stalking

Help Stop the Cycle, Report Abuse

If you or someone you love is being abused do NOT let that cycle continue. Exiting abusive situations can be challenging and potentially dangerous. The victims of abuse also may feel loyal to their abusers for a number of reasons or they may simply fear them. There are a number of supports to help you and your loved ones break the cycle of violence. Connect with those services for support and advice.

Real BDSM is not Abuse

The difference between BDSM & Abuse comes to down to the difference between a loving relationship and one that lacks consent. To an outsider who does not know the dynamics, there is always some concern about whether or not BDSM is really coerced but in the majority of situations, it is consentual. The more that we learn about the basics of BDSM, the better prepared we will be to address any concerns that our friends and family may have about the lifestyle choices we make. Once you have a solid understanding of these basics, you can learn more beyond the basics as well as being informed about different toys and fetishes. Having an open dialogue with your partner about your real thoughts and feelings about the activities you choose to engage in will help to foster a lasting and loving relationship. Stay informed and play safe!