Choosing Attributes: Physical Characteristics

How important the physical aspects of your partner is depends on how crucial it is for your fetish and for your enjoyment of BDSM activities. There is nothing wrong with wanting more of a focus on skin deep chemistry but you should be honest about your intentions. If you have a specific physical thing that is the focus of your fetish, it is always good to seek those things out. An important thing to remember though is that someone who attracts your attention due to physical attributes may not be the best choice for a new partner due to other factors such as personality or BDSM style.

Changes to Physical Beauty

The wonderful thing about this consideration is that these attributes can be, to a certain degree, changed or altered if necessary. Depending on your particular fetish and the type of relationship you foster, a play partner may be willing to accommodate changes to their appearance or the donning of specific attire for your fetish within reason.

You may also find that over time your tastes will evolve and change. What may have appealed to you when your first began your kinky journey may become less of a pull as you explore other fetishes.

You Know Who You Are, What You Want, What Now?

So you've spent some time considering who you are, what your interests are and what you are willing to give to your potential partner in a BDSM relationship. We have explored the different attributes and characteristics you would like in a potential fetish partner and which ones are important to consider. So what now? Now that you have looked at these questions, you can get out into your community and start to meet people to find your ideal fetish partner.