BDSM Why Am I Kinky? - Stefan Vogal
BDSM Why am I Kinky?: Observations & Theories - Stefan Vogal
Published: July 17, 2015
ISBN: 0993322409
Review Date: April 4, 2016
Category: Beginner, Intermediate, BDSM, Informational
Back Cover Summary:
This book is for those who are into BDSM as a sexual taste. Have you ever wondered why you are into BDSM? Why there tend to be more people of the Submissive persuasion than those of the Dominant persuasion? Why do the M/f dynamic (Male dominating female) and F/m dynamic (Female dominating male) tend to differ?
BDSM - Why am I Kinky? proposes reasoned answers with explanations to these questions. Taking an inner looking perspective at those with kink, without assuming it’s who you are as a person. BDSM - Why am I Kinky? proposes that enjoying both roles (switching) is a preference that can be chosen, looking at the underlying reasons why.
BDSM Why am I kinky? is not an erotic book or a “how-to”, but is for those interested in seeking potential avenues to learn more about themselves. This book does not presume to be fact on an area which has many theories, but is open to acceptance to the reader if seen as logical and making sense, and if so, could help people understand themselves a bit more.
BDSM Why Am I Kinky: Reviewer Comments on Rating
BDSM Why Am I Kinky? is an excellent short overview of the topic of BDSM. The book discusses theories about why people are interested in BDSM as well as some of the fundamental concepts that those interested would need to know before beginning their exploration of the lifestyle. I really enjoyed that this book was well researched and explored the neuroscience theories about why people enjoy BDSM. This approach is often not discussed in a lot of BDSM literature so it was a different lense to view the subject.
When moving into the following chapters, the book discusses the differences between Tops and Bottoms in a scene as well as sadism and masochism. The author continues to give the reader empirical evidence collected from studies to explore the concepts and how many people identify. Once again I felt that this was a nice touch and a step in the right direction to normalizing the practice of BDSM and establishing a strong academic base of literature.
The book is relatively short and a fairly light read which makes it a great book for beginners or a type of book you may give to a partner or person in your life that you wish to understand the BDSM lifestyle a bit better. While this book is not written with this focus in mind, I would recommend it as a suitable read for people unfamiliar with BDSM as it is written in a non-threatening way and is not graphic in its descriptions of actual practice of kink as other books such as, When Someone You Love is Kinky. My main criticism for this book is that some of the terminology and language might be above the level of a lay person. The author employs certain language and jargon used by those involved in the psychology profession. There is nothing wrong with the use of this language, only that it may not be as easily understood or accessible to all readers. Overall I would recommend this book and I feel confident that it will be used to reference some of our articles on BDSM in the future.