Risk Aware Consensual Kink

History of Risk Aware Consensual Kink

The Risk Aware Consensual Kink (R.A.C.K) mantra was rumoured to be first put forth by Gary Switch on the TES mailing list in order to provide a more accurate guideline for the types of play that people engage in (Ownership & Possession, 2003). In recent years it's gained growing acceptance over the safe, sane, and consensual philosophy but it is still not the dominant view for many members of the kinky community.

Risk Aware Consensual Kink in Practice

This philosophy stems from the idea that every activity has a degree of danger to it and "safe" is best determined by the individual; what one person considers safe, another will not (Switch, 2001). To be risk aware is to understand that the activity or activities you are engaging in carries a degree of danger and potential for unwanted harm and that some of those elements may stray out of your control. Some kinksters draw comparisons between the choice to engage in BDSM and activities such as mountain climbing or sky diving; there is an awareness of possible outcomes.

R.A.C.K also takes into account the possibility of playing under the influence of drugs and/or alcohol. In many BDSM circles this is not acceptable or allowed at play parties but some people do enjoy the experience. Engaging in kinky activities while under the influence definitely ups the risks of something going awry. It can also dramatically change the experience for the players, particularly if one person remains sober. If you choose to play while you or your partner are under the influence, be sure you are aware of any extra risks drugs can add to the body's responses to BDSM.

The rest of this mantra focuses on consent and ethics. Consent is the most important part of building a trusting relationship with your partner. It ensures that both parties are respected and feel valued. It is also a keystone difference between healthy relationships and those that are abusive.

Know Where Your Partner Stands on Consent

Getting consent is sexy! Mainstream society encourages people to simply take action and pushes the idea that just making assumptions about what your partner wants and where they are at makes you suave and sexy. On paper many people agree that getting clear consent is better but in practical reality there are still many that feel this is awkward. Don't be fooled by that thinking. Don't be afraid to have a frank and honest conversation about boundaries and consent with your partner. Take that moment during a scene to check in with them about their comfort. It shows you care.

It is also important to know how your partner views BDSM risk and their consent philosophy. Do they prefer the safe, sane, and consensual view? Or do they view their activities through the lens or risk aware consensual kink? Do they like to experiment with drugs when they play? Are they adament about playing sober? Having a grasp of where your partner stands on consent makes for more satisfying and rewarding play time. Whether you choose SSC or R.A.C.K, be sure to communicate where you stand with your partner as well.